Birds in the Fog

She could not seem to find her way out of the melancholy that had become her companion in the weeks before Christmas. It was not depression exactly, nor could it be qualified as the blues. Despondence perhaps, or a poverty of the soul.  When her husband asked, “Are you feeling okay?” she smiled wanly, replying with all the energy she could, “Yeah, sure. I’m good. Just tired, I guess.” She did not know how to tell him what she felt; she didn’t want to have to try to explain feelings that were as difficult to discern as a bird flying through evening fog. He was black and white, exacting and no-nonsense. If one felt sad, one should be able to express the source without fuss or forethought. Figure it out, acknowledge it. Move on. He was used to her gloomy moods after thirty years, and was generally sweet about it, hugging her by the kitchen sink, helpless to cure whatever it was she denied with her false cheer. She became adept at quietly stepping into the bathroom and closing the door to cry, to avoid the questions she could not answer for herself.

She imagined the Christmas he had a month after his father died. 1973. It must have been impossible to feel any joy when you were fifteen and you missed your dad terribly, and you worried about your mom and sisters. He must have had to be so strong for them. She cried just thinking about it, her husband as a boy, crying in his own bathroom with the door closed.

This is what she did when the curtain dropped over her, like those heavy, dark velvet stage drapes falling in a musty theater when the show ends, and the euphoria of a moment before begins its descent into memory. This is what she did: she found places to cry—the shower, the car, the roads leading away from her house, and then she thought about ten other reasons to be sad, hoping to put it all out there at once for practicality purposes. Like cleaning out a cluttered closet so that when you walked back into it, there was order and a clearer path with no shoes to trip over.

She knew this much—she was lonely for her children who were growing up and felt less and less like being with her. She had spent all that time growing them but they seemed to have germinated like dandelion fluff, and spread far from the genesis of her body. She was lonely for her family, the closest of whom lived almost 200 miles away. Everything she did to get ready for the holidays, she did mostly alone, so that in her gloom, she wondered why. When she tried to answer her own question, it made her choke up; her children had friends and lovers, and they had taken precedence over family traditions of tree decoration and watching holiday movies together. She supposed that was the way things worked, how it was for everyone, but it didn’t make her feel any less bereft.

One day, she decided on a whim, to step into a church instead of the bathroom. The heavy door opened into the dim lights used between Masses, and to the mounds of red and white poinsettias on the altar. Walking slowly up the aisle, it felt unexpectedly and surprisingly familiar, like a cherished photograph unearthed from a long-forgotten box stored in a bottom drawer. At the altar, she knelt and crossed herself, as she had learned to do as a child. When she sat down and looked up, she realized she had found a new place to cry, in the fourth pew of St. Mary’s Church. As she dabbed her wet cheeks, she finally felt the comfort she had not remembered was here. Her tears dropped to the folds of her smiling mouth, and the presence of God smiled back.